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Emotional Intelligence and Success

Emotional Intelligence (EQ) is the ability to:

  1. Accurately identify and understand your own emotional reactions and those of others.
  2. Regulate your emotions and use them to make good decisions and act effectively.

Emotional Intelligence skills are divided into:

  1. Personal Competence: How We Manage Ourselves
    • Self-Awareness
    • Self-Management
  2. Social Competence: How We Manage Relationships
    • Social Awareness
    • Relationship Management

How Important Is Emotional Intelligence to Your Success?

Researchers have found that technical skills and IQ contribute only about 20% of the factors that determine personal and professional success. At least 80% comes from Emotional Intelligence factors, and the higher the level of the position, the more important competence in Emotional Intelligence becomes. Emotional Intelligence is crucial to understanding why one person thrives while another of equal intellect dead ends. Many otherwise smart people lack Emotional Intelligence.

Developing higher levels of Emotional Intelligence has been proven to be the single most powerful thing you can do to advance your career, professional and personal relationships, and overall happiness. These skills that determine how well you know yourself, how well you deal with all that happens to you, and how well you deal with others, are vitally important to your success.

Can Emotional Intelligence Be Learned?

Fortunately, Emotional Intelligence isn’t set at birth. Lack of Emotional Intelligence can sabotage the intellect and ruin careers, but you can improve any of the skills that make up Emotional Intelligence at any point. Emotional Intelligence skills are a result of mental habits and learned responses that can be improved with effort.


You will learn how to:

  1. Be aware of your feelings and use that knowledge to make good decisions.
  2. Manage distressing moods–calming yourself when you are anxious and handling anger appropriately.
  3. Have empathy or awareness of what others are feeling.
  4. Interact well with others.
  5. Stay motivated and optimistic in spite of setbacks.

An Emotional Intelligence Assessment is available to help you understand the components of Emotional Intelligence and evaluate your level of competence in each area,

You will also be encouraged to ask at least two other people who are familiar with your abilities to rate you on the Emotional Intelligence Assessment to give you the opportunity to see yourself as others see you.

1007 Bucknell
Arlington, TX 76012
817-265-2820
Fax 817-265-2571
mwbenson@aol.com
www.melbabenson.com